The chicken or the egg? I have heard this conversation end up going in complete circles. It reminds me of the great conversation we had in group on Tuesday but we didn't have a lot of time to really flush it all out. I asked the following question.
"Can you have compassion on yourself now, and not have compassion on yourself then?"
I got two immediate answers. "Yes!" and "No!" There are two words that I think are important to define as we begin to tackle this question. The first one is "compassion" and the second word is "then".
What does 'compassion' mean to you? What does it mean in terms of how you treat yourself. . . behaviorally? Just what exactly does compassion look like, and again I mean as far as your behavior towards yourself? What would compassion say to you on your journey of lifestyle change now?
What does 'then' mean to you? Does then refer to yesterday and your unhealthy eating behaviors? Could then refer to your childhood and the coping mechanisms you learned as a child and have carried into your adulthood? What does the behavior of compassion look like on yourself then?
I think it is an interesting question to consider, ponder and to chew on. What you believe about this question WILL impact your journey of lifestyle change, either in a healthy way . . . or in an unhealthy way. Please, continue the conversation ladies. Afterall, you ARE the smartest people I know!
I would like to end on a note of gratitude. I could not be more grateful for the wonderful therapist that God has provided for our group. Kimmie is already fitting in so well and has some insightful things to say that will continue to encourage and challenge us. Thank you Kimmie for agreeing to use your gifts and talents in the midst of our H.O.P.E. Program.