Thursday, May 14, 2009

H.O.P.E. Highlight

Hi Everyone!

Welcome to our second consistent week with the blog! I know some of you were holding your breath, but here it is! The second Thursday of each month we will have what's called the H.O.P.E. Highlight which is simply a comment or idea that someone in group has shared, that I find particularly profound, inspirational or thought-provoking. I have decided to keep names out of the blog for obvious reasons of privacy, but feel free to claim the quote if it is yours and you would like to.

As usual, we have had some awesome discussions about what keeps us stuck in some pretty unhealthy behaviors. One of the things we have talked about recently is that fear is at the core if co-dependency. One participant commented that "fear is sneaky in my life, not as obvious as it used to be". Then another followed up saying "My fear is like a wolf in sheep's clothing". I found that statement to be oh so true for me also.

Can you identify the ways that your fear(which is at the CORE of co-dependency) appears like a wolf in sheep's clothing as you attempt lasting lifestyle change?

5 comments:

orcalover said...

i have to comment. Today i decided to face a fear. My friend teaches a pilates class at the ymca. She has suggested that i come to the class many times but i said a number of excuses why i could not. I went today. I now understand why i was avoiding the class. I felt very uncomfortable, not because of people looking at me but my body would not move well and my fat got in the way causing me a lot of pain. i didnt want to face that truth. The truth that my fat is physically interfering with my ability to do physical activity that at one time enjoyed. i have a renewed faith that i am going to come out the otherside. i want to do that class without the extreme discomfort. Fear can serve me... The fear of being trapped in my fat body when i know it is not me. It has motivated me to move forward with my journey to lose weight. I HOPE i can do it.

KarenN said...

Interesting thoughts to consider. I often wonder if I use weight as an excuse to avoid doing things or being in social situations

i.e. once I get down to my ideal weight I will ........
but maybe I'm afraid of the ........
and don't allow myself to get down to my ideal weight?

Frances said...

Yea! I need my HOPE friends. I am working Wed nights, while going through unanticipated troubles with my 60-hour a week job, making work overtake HOPE. I am getting support through T/R/S evening meetings with other support groups, though none equal my buddies at HOPE. And I am tackling FEAR everyday through prayer... often many times a day! So many changes occuring in my life; so many that I want to happen. I am operating as if those that I want to happen are happening... ACTing in FAITH; turning fear on its head...

kindra said...

Wow--I didn't realize I use weight as an excuse to avoid social situations but I do! My fear is being rejected for being me. I've isolated myself so much because of my weight that I don't know how to socialize in an authentic way. I also use food as an excuse to not deal w/ my life because I'm paralyzed by so many fears. FEAR is my big monster...fear of everything...even fear of being healthy and not having an excuse for not participating in my life and dealing w/ my issues. This is a powerful blog. Sounds like I just need to take fear along w/ me and not wait for it to disappear. I learned to react to everything in fear--catastrophizing and then turning to food for anesthetizing and avoiding. Whoa- great awarenesses--time to relearn and give my fears to God! He didn't give me a spirit of fear! Thanks for sharing!!

Yarbster said...

I have a fear of doing more and it goes right along with my "all or nothing" mentality. I am afraid that if I try to exercise more I won't be able to keep it up and therefore will feel like a failure and give it up all together. I think I have overcome this in the water, but land exercise is a different kind of challenge for me. I know I need it but am afraid to go there. I am thankful for the time Julie gives and allows time to walk with any of us who care to, and I am trying to at least take advantage of this great opportunity. I'm also very thankful for this blog site where we can freely share with each other. Yarbster