Friday, June 11, 2010

It's all in your point of view

I was all prepared to blog about balance until I walked in to the Y and had a funny experience.  I was walking past the access desk where people scan their cards to get in here when the line was held up by this man.  He had three kids with him and one little girl was peeking over the counter at me and said rather loudly, "I'm six and a half", and I was focused on something else and didn't answer her quick enough.  She said it louder at me the second time, "I'm six and a half" so I quickly answered her, "Is that right, six and a half?  When will you be seven?" and she answered a little aggrevated at my limited knowledge "On my seventh birthday!"  Duh.  Well alrighty then.  So I shared this story with a fellow Y employee and she told me that her daughter, who is six, begged for a puppy and her Daddy said no, not until you are seven.  She said how about six and a half and her Daddy said no again.   She said how about 6 and 3 quarters and her Dad finally conceded and said "OK Heidi, when you're six and three quarters, you can have a puppy."  She ran upstairs and in a few minutes came shrieking down the stairs just screaming.  "Daddy, Daddy, I'm six and three quarters" she shouted just as serious as she could be with her little hand stretched out with three silver quarters in it.  It's all in your point of view! 

While these are really cute stories about kids, it's the same with we adults.  We all have a point of view.  In fact, I looked up the definition of "point of view" and found it quite interesting.  American Heritage Dictionary states the following:

   1. The place from which, or way in which, something is viewed or considered;

   2. a mental attitude, belief or opinion

Heidi had always heard age referenced with three quarters.  She had no idea that it meant length of time, not currency.  One of the things that is most important on this journey of lifestyle change is to be able to identify your viewpoint.  Most folks had no idea they were eating out of an emotional place or that their behavior was motivated by shame.  Again, point of view!  According to the definition above, changing your point of view would be changing your belief.  I had a pretty warped point of view when I first embarked on this journey and as I began to be able to identify the "racket" or warped viewpoints and I began to see a different and much healthier point of view emerging.  The truth is what illuminates the distortion.  Once I could see truth, it was much easier to see non-truth! 

Have a great weekend ladies!


kindra said...

Yes, my point of view or lens has been clouded for a long time by shame and distortion. The best thing I've done to clean up the lens and get a healthier perspective is to come to HOPE and hear from other people. I can learn how someone has dealt with a challenge I am having and many, many times I've been able to hear my own story and see it more objectively because someone in the group will be sharing my similar feelings or experience. I absolutely get nothing out of HOPE unless I show up. I am so thankful to all of you who participate and show up! It gives me HOPE!

KarenN said...

Wow, I can see where things that were said to me when I wasn't much overweight triggered negativity on my part. I would be excited about losing some weight and then a family member would say that's great but you still have a lot to lose. I keep that mentality now. It wasn't just with weight that this would happen. Any compliment was qualified with how much better it would be if I had done this or look how much more you still have to do. It is hard when others critical voices over the years finally turn into your own voice.

Ok, to much self-pity here. I will add a funny kid point of view story now. When my daughter was little she actually and meaningfully answered the question "where does milk come from" with the answer "the refrigerator".
Happy weekend.

KarenN said...

Another point of view comment. In early May I saw a vivid shooting star. I researched meteor showers to see if there was one going on then. There was. It seems it is part of a pair of annual meteor showers. The other I knew about and it is in August. It turns out that these two meteor showers are annual remments of Halley's Comet. Yes, twice a year we go through the dust trail of Halley's Comet that we only see every 75 to 76 years. So when we see that streak of light across the sky do we think of it as looking at a dust trail or do we make a wish on a shooting star? Twice a year we pass throught the past of Halley's Comet. Even the universe cannot escape it's past so how do we think we can. Do we stand outside at night to hopefully see a piece of beauty in the sky from that past or do we hide in fear that the meteorite will crash into our home? It's all your point of view. I hope to see you all with your telescopes ourside in August looking for shooting stars to wish on.