USING OTHERS TO STOP
OUR PAIN
Our happiness is not a present someone else holds in his or
her hands. Our well-being is not held by
another to be given or withheld at a whim.
If we try to force someone to give us what we believe he or she holds,
we will be disappointed. We will
discover that it’s an illusion. That
person didn’t hold it. He or she never
will. That beautifully wrapped box with
the ribbon on it that we believed contained our happiness that someone else was
going to give us, is really an illusion.
In those moments when we are trying to reach out and force
someone to stop our pain and create joy for us; if we can find the courage and
faith to stop flailing about and instead stand still and deal with our own
issues, we will find happiness.
Yes, it’s true that if someone steps on our foot, he or she
is hurting us and therefore holds the power to stop the pain by removing his or
her foot. But the pain is still
ours. So it is our responsibility to
tell someone to stop stepping on our feet.
Healing comes when we are aware of how we attempt to use
others to stop our pain and create our happiness for us. This awareness helps us heal from the past
and we receive insights that can change the course of our relationships.
We will see that all along, our happiness and our well-being
have been in our own hands. We have held
that box. The contents are ours for the
opening. That we run from the most is what we create in our lives.
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How have you expected others to create your happiness?
Define your happiness; what does it look like? What does it feel like? How can you own your own happiness?
What would you fill your happiness gift box up with? Draw a box and add contents.